"Small" Things Become Bigger

This week Chris and I have begun to look at wedding invitations. Emily went with me Friday to pick up a few wedding invitations albums to bring home for us and our families to look at. Emily had spent the night with a friend and had to get up early to go to the doctor so needless to say she wasnt too up for wedding invitation shopping. But like a good maid of honor she went and looked through endless amounts of books with me all while literally falling asleep at the table. I informed Chris I had picked up three books that I found many things I liked in and I wanted him to look at them with me later that night so we could narrow it down before we showed our parents our options. I cleared off our kitchen table and laid the books out. If you have ever went invitation shopping you know the books are no ordinary books. They are not small and magazine shaped yet they seem to weigh twenty pounds apiece and be HUGE! Chris was definitely expecting magazine sized books because when he walked in the house he stopped and just stared at the gigantic books staring him in the face. It definitely made him not want to go through the books with me but like a good fiance he did. We soon found out our tastes in invitations are completely different! Chris likes the plain, simple look while I go for over the top and different. We just ended up making each other aggravated and gave up after looking through the three books after placing sticky notes on every single choice one or both of us liked. The next day we shared our picks with my parents and Chris' parents. They both weighed in on the options yet both told us it was ultimately our decision. Of course when you show that many people everyones picks are going to be different. I did not expect this small task to be so strenuous. Not only do you have to pick our the invitation but also the envelope, lined, plain, or colored. You also have to pick our monograms, sticker seals, thanks you cards, the format of the card, the colors of ink on the car, the color of the card itself (ivory or white-yet again Chris likes white I go for ivory), the wording on the card, etc. It is CRAZY!!! Sunday night we decided to try to narrow down the picks to our top 5 because the books had to go back today, Monday. We narrowed it down to our top 4 that we both agreed on and could live with. I took the books back today and our two of our favorites priced. Emily and I then looked through more books. Chris and I are going back this Friday to go through the books together so I dont bring home three more huge books that he doesnt like anything in. I want our parents to like the invitations as well seeing as they are paying for them yet ultimately we know it is our decision to make. We are both having to learn to not sweat the small stuff and to learn to compromise and figure things out together. Other items we considered to be "small" are also turning into bigger matters than I first realized. Napkins, save the dates, thank you cards, plates, food, flowers, set up for everything at the church, favors, etc. Weddings are definitely more tiring that I ever realized. It is never ending...once I get one thing done something else pops up. However, I am becoming much better at my multi-taking skills. Chris and I are getting better on compromising and listening to each others opinions so I have no doubt we will be able to come to a decision on everything involved in our wedding. I know we will still have our arguments but in the end all will be worth it and we will be husband and wife. Just 145 more days! I cant believe it!